Husband calls wife lazy when she suggests hiring a maid service everyday, despite her cooking and cleaning for him: "I work full-time and he still expects me to take care of house chores"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 12, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Hey there ladies and gentlemen of the internet. People love to say that money is no object, that is isn't the panicle of happiness, nor does it have any affects on one's life. For anyone who's grown up either without basic funds, or in a country that isn't very first world, we can all agree that money matters. Does it solely dictate happiness? No. But does it have a callosal affect on quality of life? Yes.
 

If you can afford something you want, better to get that thing. There's little point in waiting it out to buy something that you really want, because odds are that you really need it too. I live alone in a small apartment and I'd absolutely love to have a cleaning service. It's really expensive where I live, and I don't feel like I make enough to justify it. 
 

In the story below, the protagonist and her husband apparently do make enough to afford it. They're already affording it, and the woman wants to increase the frequency. Read the full story below.

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    AITA for wanting to hire a full-time maid even though my fiancé thinks it’s unnecessary?

    "You should be doing more around the house"
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    My fiancé and I go 50/50 on everything financially, and we both have good jobs — I actually earn a bit more than he does. We live together and have two large
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  • This poor woman is slaving away to her husband, and he doesn't even have the gall to appreciate her efforts. There are so many pros to where women have strived to be in society, but there's still a slew of negative aspects of it. Women can work full-time and are encouraged to do so, yet still have traditional chores at home. 

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    dogs (a Golden Retriever and a Border Collie), so our house gets messy pretty quickly with all the fur and daily life.
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    When we first moved in, I took on most of the cleaning and cooking. I used to enjoy cooking for him, and we'd sometimes order takeout when I was too tired. But
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    after months of juggling work, house chores, and cooking - sometimes even having to cook while in the middle of meetings I burned out. Completely. -
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    Eventually, we agreed to hire a part-time maid, which isn't expensive where we live (outside the US). It helped a lot, but the
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    maid doesn't come every day, and when she doesn't, I usually make breakfast for both of us and serve it before he wakes up.
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    Recently, I brought up the idea of hiring someone to clean every weekday to help keep the house in shape and take some pressure off me. He got really upset and
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    said it wasn't necessary, that I'm being lazy, and that I'm trying to avoid any responsibility for housework. That made me furious.
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    I told him I've done more than my share for a long time. When I used to cook, he would wash the dishes – but let's be real, cooking a full meal is a lot more work than just
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    washing dishes. I said I wanted to feel taken care of too, not just be the one doing everything. He still thinks it's not justified to have daily help and that I should do more around the house.
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    I told him I find it unfair that we split finances 50/50, I work full- time, and he still expects me to be the one taking charge of the
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    house chores. It feels like he's not willing to make things easier for me even though we can afford it.
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    AITA for wanting to hire a maid Monday through Friday and standing my ground?
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    Edit: he says being able to afford it doesn't mean we should do it. He's annoyed i've been doing less and less in the house (i'm a woman btw), and giving more responsibility to the maid rather
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    than doing it myself. But honestly it's been heaven waking up to food on my plate and not having to worry about crossing my
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    meetings with cooking time. He says I'm just avoiding basic adult everyday stuff. •
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    paintlulus He thinks it's unnecessary because... you are the maid.
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